Sekali Sahaja,....

Penyesalan terbesar dalam hidup ialah risiko yang kita tidak ambil. Jika anda merasakan sesuatu itu akan membuatkan anda bahagia, maka teruskan. Ingatlah bahawa kita akan melalui semua ini hanya sekali, mungkin tiada lagi peluang kedua.

MY DECLARATION OF SELF-ESTEEM..

What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.

Carl Rogers

The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl’s question. “How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?”

I am me.

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about me- my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever it might be-anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it- polite, sweet and rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say or do, and whatever I think and feel at given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time.

When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out unfitting. I can discard that which unfitting and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me.

I am me and I am okay.

Virginia Satir.

Risking..

Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile spring soil.

The first seed said, “ I want to grow! I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth’s crust above me.... I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring..... I want to feel warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals.”

And so she grew.

The second seed said, “ I am afraid. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don’t know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts.... what if I let my buds open and snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait, until it safe.”

And so she waited.

A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it.

MORAL OF THE STORY

Those of us who refuse to risk and grow get swallowed up by life.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL...

You’ve failed many times, although you may not remember.

You fell down the first time you tried to walk.

You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim didn’t you?

Did you hit the ball the first time you swung a bat?

Heavy hitters, the one who hit the most home runs, also strike out a lot.

R.H. Macy failed seven times before he store in New York caught on.

English novelist John Creasey got 753 rejection slips before he published 564 books.

Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times, but he also hit 714 home runs.

Don’t worry about failure.

Worry about the chances you miss when you don’t try.